Dazed and Confused...Need Advice!!!!

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Originally Posted By: gr8 day 2B alive
smm23,
Don't worry about MC right now.


I wish I could. A few times before she left we had talked about marriage counseling and nothing was done until she went and got one. She considered it a last resort but told me that she just wanted to work a few things out. Nothing was ever worked out and a few months later she said that it was the last straw that since that did not work she was done trying. So I regret bringing it up on Monday, but if I do not follow through this time it will truly be the end I think.

I am not saying don't goto MC. If your W is willing to go and PARTICIPATE that's one thing. If she is going to justify her actions then it is not productive.

My experience with MC was my W didn't have yuor heart in it and the MC was talking about how when I was 6 things fromed and that's the way I am.
MC is good if you both want to work on the M. IC is better for working on you.

I have asked my wife to forgive and love me again, but its like talking to a polar bear... They dont listen, and they dont care what you have to say.

Asking for forgiveness is OK, but then all we can do is wait for them to soften. As for asking her to love you again, well, that's not going to get you anywhere.

Expect your W to take out all her resentment on you. You are now a human punching bag for her. Listen to her, Validate her even though you may not agree with her.