Who do you think the MLC hurts the most? (Besides themself...that is)
The spouse...right?
Don't you think that maybe just maybe...this reconnection with others might be giving them the skills and confidence to try and reconnect with the spouse later?
Wow, you are right. Start with something easier in order to "practice" what is harder. Never thought of it that way. And of course that reinforces the fact that I need to keep my changes going.
Those walls. Uggh. They are there. Mine are of course from my heart getting stomped on and my family torn apart and my trust broken. His? Well, the issues driving his MLC and now he has spent so much time shutting me out and trying not to be a H/father that honestly at times I think he isn't quite sure how to let me back in. Just a guess on my part. Like last night, he made a comment that let me know about some plans he had for the weekend but the way he told me was just funny - cluing me in without really telling me.
So far I haven't let the weather get me down today, though it IS making me want a nap, especially seeing the dog all curled up in her "nest" snoozing the day away.
