First, I am sorry to hear about your friend.My prayers go out to the family.
The feelings you have right now are normal. IMO you are not at point where you FINALLY realize that nothing YOU do can "snap" her out of it. Nope. You finally have realized that this is really happening. You want this pain and emptyness to go away. I know buddy...I know... you want your M back.
You are right the person that you married is no longer the same. She is gone. She is now trying to find herself/address her issues whatever you want to call it. Guess what...you are now on a similar path. You need to find Wild. You need to make Wild happy. You need to be the best dad for your D. The key word is YOU.
I understand about the finacial aspect dude- trust me I do. Why then do you feel the need to file? Why are you going to give up already? Why not stop feeling crap*y about the sitch and really and I mean really look at yourself. Stand up, man up, and say F** It. I am gonna do what I want to do. Do you really think that filing will fix this? Do you really think that filing will allow you to move forward? IMO - YOU decided when you move forward. YOU decide what Wild wants! You buddy make the choice in your life.
Stop looking at her. Stop worry about what she thinks and does. Stop... actually maybe you should STOP everything and just take some time for you. By everything I mean the thoughts of D. Maybe you should take the time you need to heal.
Now I may be way off base here but you sound a lot like I did when I thought i was "done". Guess what - your not. Do you know why? Think about it and then post your reasons.
Keep your head up - keep your eyes on your kids - keep your eyes on what you want and what you need in your future. Keep your eyes UP.
FYI...tonight I have the kids but will try and reach out.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
