Well the simplest answer is no contact w her while she is with OM. You might want to expose their A as well.

marriagebuilders advises setting up a legal separation.

If you don't want a D, don't file.

give us more info if you'd like!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004