Trent I know.....bad comment on my part to the h. I have been way to aggressive with him and accusatory. He knows what he is doing and that it is wrong. I need to back off. I know this. Awest's story of her sitch above has really hit home for me.....things seem more clear now. I really do need to back off and let what is going to happen, just happen. There isn't anything more I can do. The h has to want to get help.

Again, I need to realize that the person who cares the least has the control in the relationship.... Really is true!

I sm going to make Nicole a better person, I'm already pretty great but I could be even better that's for sure.


M 35, husband 35
M 10
Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count
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