smm23, Has your W left yet or telling you she's looking for a place?
No, she has not left and does not intend on leaving. That is why I am so lost on the whole sitch. Until I bring something up, everything is fine. My IC says that she is most likely in MLC and that she has many problems inside (I can confirm this) from not just the things that I did but the way her family treated her. She does not know who to trust and she will not talk. She holds all of this inside and resents me and everybody else. I am hoping that if we find the right MC that they will recognize her internal problems that she does not trust me to help her with right now, and recommend an IC so that she can work those things out. I am very confident that if she gets the other problems worked out that we can reconcile. (Although I am not getting my hopes up anymore.) But I cannot get her to just go to IC. So since I got her to agree to go to MC I am hoping this plan works.
Originally Posted By: gr8 day 2B alive
smm23, Don't worry about MC right now.
I wish I could. A few times before she left we had talked about marriage counseling and nothing was done until she went and got one. She considered it a last resort but told me that she just wanted to work a few things out. Nothing was ever worked out and a few months later she said that it was the last straw that since that did not work she was done trying. So I regret bringing it up on Monday, but if I do not follow through this time it will truly be the end I think.
You are right though, I treasure every moment I have with my son. Really is the only reason I have not moved out or asked her to. I have a fabulous relationship with him and I will not give that up for the world. So I am concentrating on losing weight and playing with my son. If she wants to come along for the ride I am willing. I just do not feel like I have anything left to give to her until she can show me that she wants to make things better.
I have been keeping up on your thread as well. Pretty tough stuff isn’t it? I feel like she has all of the cards and she thinks I do, that is why I hope she will listen to a mediator independent person like a MC. I finally have a solid head on my shoulders and I hope that she can forgive me and love me again. But I do not know how long I can go without feeling some love, other than my son. I light up every time he tells me that I am the best daddy in the world.
