i find myself thinking about another man a lot, too. i dated him briefly a few years ago and really liked him at the time. we've been in touch from time to time over the last 4 years (but never anything inappropriate and he knew i was married), and i ran into him on my way to work on monday. i don't want to use him as a distraction or a means to get over things with my H, but i also don't want to close the door on a possible relationship with this guy a few months down the road. but it does at least for now help me alieviate some of the grief i'm feeling...in the sense that i realize that i could potentially be excited about someone else, too.
This is good! It's a great day when you realize that you are thinking about the possibility of a R w/OM. When you realize that you can be interested in a man who isn't H. When you realize that the world is filled w/handsome, funny, kind, engaging men who would be grateful to be with YOU!
I had a brief fling this past month, which ended partially b/c I wasn't ready for it to be anything more. But it was good for me to be interested/excited about someone other than H.
After 7+ months of H's waffling, coldness, tearing me down, etc, it felt really good to have positive attention, that I wanted, from an attractive man. Kind of the exact opposite of what H has been doling out.
Hope that is helpful.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
