Depression is always there throughout the crisis itself.

It looks like he's crashing hard, and sees all that he's done. Because you're not reacting in an angry way, that's making him even MORE miserable, as he KNOWS you should be tearing him apart, and he would deserve that.

Yet, you're not, you're seriously trying to help him and he feels even worse for what he's put you through..and that is actually a good thing...he's trying to hard to work his way through, and from what I'm reading, all paths are leading BACK to you....another good sign.

You may suggest, but try not to push him in regards to testing, etc. Accept whatever he agrees to...it's hard not to just take over, but you can't do that because, then you would be seen as "mother", and believe me, that can make things worse.

Now, concerning his problems trying to learn new things..for some reason while in the crisis, new things are HARD to learn IF they ARE learned.
When emotions are in this type of growing process, new things are nearly impossible to learn, but things that are already known, come easily.

Again, be there for him when he needs you, be patient with this processing..there is still a ways to go before he emerges from the OW Withdrawal. His misery is a good thing for now, as the more miserable he is, the less likely something of this sort will happen again, as he learns it is NOT worth what he's putting himself and you through.

He won't remember much when it all comes to an end, but he WILL remember how he was treated while within all these events.

You are doing well, even though it doesn't seem like it...and he's coming to you for help, I can see that clearly.

Journaling helps get it off of you and lets you see the progress you and he are making as this goes along.

Take care.

Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.