1. So even though I've already paid the initial money for the paperwork, just leave it in limbo? And don't laugh, I really did find a website that does all of the court documents for you before you see the lawyer. I still have hope that we can amicable during this. You may call me delusional if you'd like. Just leave it there & wait for him to bring it up? He mentioned it once the other day, I think he may have just been testing the water.
2. What about money and insurance? I just got a notice for the car insurance premiums coming due. Pay them & act like nothing has changed because legally it hasn't?
3. He flung his ATM card at me before he left...and I cut it up. I haven't called the credit union to find out how to get his name off of the account. I think I remember from last time that there were papers he needed to sign--but I haven't called. What if he says he needs money? I know he should get a job, but what until then?
4. He told S6 that he *might* be at his TBall practice tomorrow. H was supposed to be the Coach , but backed out last minute because he moved out. How to act if he is there? What if the kids invite him back to the house? We are at the point last time where I invited him over for dinner, a movie & some time with the kids & he never left. Only difference is that this time I don't want him to move back in. Not like this.
5. Without demanding blood tests, how do I determine if he is doing drugs again? His parents wouldn't like that, but they were clueless when he was a teenager. They won't have caught on any quicker now that they are older.
6. In the end, am I just to act like everything is fine? Even though, according to him, I'm the one who kicked him out? He told me he hated me, I told him if he was that unhappy to leave. I gave him the out, he took it & I didn't stop it. I don't know what you'd call that, or which side of the fence I'm supposed to be on.
Thank you so much for helping me. Now I really must go do some housework. lol
Last edited by shelbel; 04/23/1005:03 PM.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
