SA - sorry about you sitch It must be though on the kids. I believe that my H has been in MLC for the past 4 years, one year out of that in the affair. So I think that there was some mild depression going on that he tried to cure with OW. His depression was quite obvious to me since I found out about the affair, but he was denying it. Now that he is really crashing he doesn't deny it anymore, so maybe he will get some medical help.
Eric - thank you for your encouragement...I need it
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
It must be though on the kids. 
