Need a Plan for My Marriage

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I am still trying to figure out why she wants to counseling to "communicate" better for the kids if we divorce. She is always negative when we discuss anything. If she wants to "communicate" better she just needs to try. She is always making it appear to everyone and herself that I am the reason we are unable to "communicate." I just stopped trying to talk with her to stop being made to feel bad.

I just don't know how counseling will change her if she does not want to change. The counselor could tell her how, but it is up to her to make the effort. Noone is able to make her change the way she acts towards me but her.