embracing change

[flowmom]

Get a cleaning lady, have her do the first couple of weeks, get your house back in order and then consider if you still want to keep her or not. This is NO time for thinking money or H. This is time for you, taking care of you, pampering you etc etc.
Please be a little selfish.

Thanks for the suggestion Kalni. Maybe that is a good idea. But I won't involve H in it. It would feel really good to get on top of it.

And with this, Gardener physically stands up from his desk and applauds flowmom with a standing O!

Thanks Gardener. I got a bit fired up writing that.

Don't ask anyone to intervene or not intervene. Don't apologize to H that they did. If he brings it up: Sounds tough that someone made you uncomfortable.

OK, I think I'll do that. I was worried that H would think it was something that I engineered, but this guy would be an unlikely choice for that so hopefully H will realize that the guy is acting on his own impulses.

Interestingly, the other day a wife from the fire hall phoned and left a message asking how I'm doing. She and her H were at our wedding. I haven't been involved much in the firehall social life (due to kids), but she is the only person from the entire fire department who has contacted me since the separation.