I did rent out the spare bedroom. My lawyer cautioned against it--probably for the same reasons--more income off the place--but I really did it for the company.
Having read your note, now I am terrified that this will somehow be a problem in the house/property division. I think I will try to preclude that by giving up on arguing over the joint account--like you, I have put in almost ALL the money (and of course the apartment rentals) that is in the account now. And X is claiming half as his. Fine. Take it. I'll do whatever it takes to build cash back up again.
I can only hope that seeing your X behave in this way helps even more to let go of the love and life that was. The one you loved has so clearly died, if you will. You can mourn that person, and continue moving on.
This other wacko stranger who keeps showing up and making demands--you don't need to worry about her feelings at all. Your return email was FINE. No need anymore for the patient 48 hours waiting.
Sorry you have to keep dealing with this. I say bury St. Joseph, flowers, vanilla, and feng shui all the way to get the place sold. The good care and work you put into the place just adds to your karmic balance. The house knows you are taking good care of it.
