Don't ask anyone to intervene or not intervene. Don't apologize to H that they did. If he brings it up: Sounds tough that someone made you uncomfortable. And I have no control over anyone's actions or choices. His or yours. People are goign to have opinions. etc. That's part of this whole situation that is going on...
I guess I'm saying don't take it upon yourself to clean that mess up. You didn't start it. Don't protect him from public consequences of his behavior and choices.
