Thanks for chiming in lalxx, but part of my heartbreak is that I DIDN'T try. Having no idea that he was unhappy, I blithely went about my life, assuming all was OK. He made it very easy for me to take him/us for granted.
Then, when he did the big walk-away, I was given NO opportunity to work on the R. I did all the DB'ing--let him go, acted "as if", GAL'ed, etc. In retrospect, I have to wonder if he was wondering/hoping that I would fight for him--based on just two or three little remarks he made early on.
Well, he had my initial "apology, let's try, here's my heart, you mean all to me" letter, so, he did have that info if he wanted it.
I wish I had your comfort of knowing you tried. And yes, I will be honest and say how much it hurts that some of us got a chance to try, but I didn't.
