Is this piecing?

[Freckle6]

Yeah, your husband's actions and words don't match, but trying to decipher them will drive you nuts! Dim is good--forces you to stop focusing on him.

IMO, there is always hope, but I don't think we can do anything to sway them back--it has to come on their own. OTOH, I do think we can do things to damage the bridge so they *don't* rethink things. I'm sure if I did or said 1/4 of the evil, vindictive things in my head the past 5 years, my H would never have had this mysterious change of heart.

I'm so happy for you for your job! The appetite will come back. I've been back and forth on that a lot over the years! I quit smoking before I got pregnant and of course once H dropped the bomb, started back again. I quit 6 months ago.

I had started taking Wellbutrin(aka Zyban) for depression a couple years ago. I was tired of feeling numb over everything and figured the smoking cessation side effects would be a bonus. Once I started taking it, through no action on my part, I realized I was smoking 1/2 as much. From over a pack a day to sometimes only 8 a day. When I decided to quit this fall (taxes on them in NY went up again and I just couldn't afford it anymore), the Wellbutrin helped soooo much compared to from when I quit before we started TTC.

Hang in there! You're doing great. One step at a time and you will get through this and out the other side again. We don't know what will be on the other side or if it's what you think you want right now, but it will be better than this. Promise!