Can someone help me understand something? Since my wife got involved in the EA with DJ, and subsequently moved out, she often tries to mask her negative actions by sort of taking on this moral high ground about what's right or wrong when it comes to our kids, other peoples problems, or whatever. The other day our son brought home a school progress report with a bad mark. My wife and I both sat him down and explained where we thought he needed to focus, improve his in class behavior, etc...
Our son became quite upset because my wife went a little bit overboard in her scolding of him. To her credit, it was nothing major. But, she did let him have it more than she normally would. He was supposed to spend the night with my wife at her apartment, but didn't want to go because he was pretty upset. So, I/we didn't make him go. After my wife left I sat and talked with him for awhile. One of the first things that came out of his mouth was, "Dad, why does mom have the right to tell me what is right or wrong when she is still talking to that guy in China? She's married to you, but she is still talking to him. What she is doing is wrong. It's not fair."
Man, how does a parent respond to something like that? I'd absolutely lovvvvveeeee to let HER have it, and cement in our son's mind what his instincts already tell him. I didn't do that though. I told him that mom is making a mistake, but that she is still his mom, and what she says about his schoolwork and bad grades are all true. I feel soooo bad for him because it's plain and obvious that he struggles with understanding the morality of what she's doing with DJ/the EA, and thus can't "get" what this whole MLC nonsense means in his 10-year old brain.
Mostly I'm venting here. But, one question I have is, should I mention to my wife what our son said? Part of me strongly feels that she needs to understand how her son looks at her. The other part thinks, 'what good would it do?'
