It's just my opinion, GDH. I happen to disagree with much of the DB stuff when an active affair is going on -- I don't think it's strong enough.
If your husband is getting some of his physical and emotional needs met with OW, and the rest of his physical and emotional needs met by you . . . why would he ever change? He has two doting, caring, affirming, validating women hot after him.
Read Britt54's threads, and Pearharbor's, and see if you can get them to look at your sitch. They both tried the "nice" approach, and got walked all over. Once they'd had enough and got tough, their situations turned around dramatically.
I'm not saying to be an ass, please don't misunderstand. I'm saying DON'T BE HIS BEST FRIEND, and don't keep doing the WIFE things when he is currently rejecting you as his wife. PULL BACK on those things that you do, treat him civilly, and start doing more for yourself.
Once he thinks he's gone too far and might be losing you, you'll start to make some progress. It's just basic human nature.
