I am new to your sitch and read only the last 2 pages. What caught my eye was our similiarties with the phone calls with the kids.
We split the kids 50/50 and my W works second shift. She likes to call the kids on her break before they goto bed.
My D5 has been trying to get us to talk on the phone for over a month now. She even does the trick of telling us the other one wants to talk to other.
This is a lot pressure on a 5yo.
So I told D5 to stop asking mommy if she want to talk to me. I told her that when she talks to mommy it is their time for each other and that mommy and daddy talk at other times.
WHen they talk just leave the room. Its been working for me.
TC
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