Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Ahh, well the feeling has faded and fiance is being his usual, loving self. I realised yesterday, this is what he was like in the early years together (until his Dad got ill and he got depressed).. so loving and devoted.

Hi Jeff! Thats an interesting viewpoint. In the UK, if you are in a longterm R and living together,especially as homeowners, you are regarded as 'married' or theres no loss or difference in status alongside married couples. Most of our friends are either M or longterm LT and you wouldnt tell them apart! More than that though, I just KNEW we were meant to be together. I must have seemed crazy to peeps in RL too! Afterall he had seemingly 'moved on' to a new GF, although I was told by friends (and fiance!)since that noone really believed he had moved on, even when he was with Helen!

I'm actually feeling a bit lonely, or maybe sad. I read someone posting about how you can NOW mourn what happened as at the time, you couldnt because you were DBing. Or I see it that I was DBing, you arent then accepting or mourning thats it over, as you maintain hope and it keeps the old R as if present and current. Now I can look back and realise I was single and heartbroken.

Now the questions have stopped, its behind us, we are back where we were and its like I dreamt it.. I feel sad about what we went through (him too). I had to do a work visit yesterday to where he moved when he left me and I drove to his apartment and looked in the garden into the rooms...I felt so sad standing there and like it wasd down a long distant tunnel, that girl who would have LOVED to have been invited to that flat. I could still remember how I felt.. and I cant believe how much I cried. Wow, I cried every day for 4 months when he left me and for a year in all.

I'm not explaining very well, but nearly a year on, now I am mourning it, quietly.