But about the comments on the messy house- any chance that since you have been handling yourself so well in front of him that he was looking for a sign that you aren't doing okay?
Possible.
Originally Posted By: newmama
Do you think he is surprised at how strong you are being through this?
We were together for 17 years so he's seen my strength...but my self-control and consistency under the circumstances have got to be throwing him for a loop at least a little bit.
Originally Posted By: newmama
Do you see what I mean-like it is kind of threatening to him in a way that you haven't fallen apart.
I pursued him for years and he rejected me for years. I was distressed for years. He can divorce me but I want my dignity...I don't want to be the pathetic ex who couldn't get over losing God's Gift to Womankind.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
