Sorry bro but I'll pretty much give you an explanation & answer for every point you have, I'm not your wife, stop trying to convince me LOL!
- you've been told what you need to do but you will continue asking "but", "what if I", "how about this", etc. etc. etc. That's your logic and it's also your feelings, you're in love with your feelings, you want it done your way and you don't want to listen to anyone telling you that you can't have it that way.
Now think about this.
And apply it to your wife because that's how she is right now, in love with her feelings, and she wants to live her life her way and she doesn't want to listen to anyone telling her she can't have what she wants so you might as well agree with her, by doing so, you're not fighting her, you're giving her what she wants and although you don't want to give her this, it's the first time that she'll remember that you finally get it and you're giving her what she wants - you might actually make her happy, wouldn't that be interesting for her to associate that thought process with you ;-)
