I need help understanding the meaning behind the post from OfficerinNeed's thread!

But about the comments on the messy house- any chance that since you have been handling yourself so well in front of him that he was looking for a sign that you aren't doing okay?

Do you think he is surprised at how strong you are being through this? Do you see what I mean-like it is kind of threatening to him in a way that you haven't fallen apart. Just observing.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004