sometimes the truth is hard to accept, it's quite possible you're holding on to her and won't let her go, time to let her go, she isn't happy with you and she suffers being around you, your changes won't make a difference right now, time for you to let her go.

Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
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I'm sure those in need would be interested in hearing all the details of your journey.



You HAVE been getting the details. You just aren't listening. I LIVE the advice I give.

I won't share my wife.
If she finds someone else, then I WILL let her go and she knows it and vice versa.
I would not try to win her back because there is nothing wrong with me now. I will not be with a woman who tells me, shows me, acts like she doesn't want to be, or chooses to not be with me.

She stays out of complete freedom of choice. Total and complete freedom. I am a great catch. So is she. Neither of us is perfect. She could find a man in a day that would treat her wonderfully. I would have no problem finding another woman that would treat me just fine.

So you see. She is NOT the only woman in the world. Why would I WASTE two or more years of my time with a woman that had an affair on me and moved out and told me she wanted the other man? And to top it off, why would I then WANT to spend time with a depressed person for months on end? The one depressed pulls the other person down. They have to to feel better about themself. Why would I allow that when I would prefer to be with another happy person?

And since when does depression suddenly equal that they don't love you? Why wouldn't they say to you if you had a good relationship.."Honey, I am depressed, but I want you to know that I love you and I am sorry for pulling you down?"

THAT is how it happens in a good relationship.

How do you know that YOU aren't the cause of her depression because she doesn't want to tell you again that she just doesn't have it for you? Maybe she is thinking "is this all there is, I know how hard he tries but I JUST DON'T FEEL the way I want to feel for him"


You see Bond, you are not willing to let her go.
Her actions have shown and continue to show that her heart is not TOTALLY in the game with you. That isn't how women want to feel. No wonder she is depressed.


So Bond, "my details" are in my advice. Love works far far better when it is given freely and out of choice and not out of duty. You just won't let her go and yet you keep talking and talking and talking about "not one size fits all"

And I keep tellng you, NO, not one size fits all. BUT in YOUR case, the Gooch is right. I have read every word of your entire threads. Watched and observed and sat back and keep seeing you doing it YOUR way. Again. It doesn't seem to be working.