Quick history W wants separation/divorce after years of verbal, mental abuse and controlling behavior. We have been together for 10 years and W said it has gone on for the full 10 years. I took her for granted and made her feel unappreciated. We still had great times and never imagined life without each other. My W loved me unconditionally and just hoped one day I would change. Shortly after we got married she realized that things remained the same so she wants out of the marriage. Now my W feels as if 'she wasted 10 years of her life', 'we got married for all the wrong reasons' and my wife has told me 'I love you but I am not in love with you' , 'too little too late'
I'm not 100% sure if it was puppy or someone else but there's a very high chance of your spouse being interested in or actually seeing someone else when they say these "magical" words.
I love you but I'm not in love with you.
I care for you but I'm not excited about you. I know this because I'm currently excited by someone else right now and that's who I want and that's who I'm pursuing so please stop chasing me, I don't want you anymore, I don't know how else to tell you this and you don't seem to get the point.
