still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[newmama]

I just wanted to point out that I don't think he is good just because he agrees with me- I was expecting him to not agree with me and help me to go in a different direction. I was not expecting him to bring up the fact that R can still exist.

I think he is good because he uses objective research to back his recommendations. Of course his opinion slips through but he always explains where the idea comes from like "this is my gut. But Gottman studied 1000s of marriages and he found..."