W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

she's not unique, trust me, nothing of what you just mentioned is unique, instead of asking us to read 10 pages of your situation, why not spend some more time browsing the existing threads.

If your wife really wants to leave you, ask her when she's planning on leaving. Simple, direct, straight to the point. Ask her if she would like help packing.

You've been married 5 months and she wants to divorce you already, you're going to tell me there is no one else in the picture, no other man, she just wants to divorce you, what could you possibly have done in 5 months to drive this woman away? Were you physically abusive with her?

I have browsed, searched and read many threads.

My FIL is now the owner of a home that was passed on by my W late grandmother. FIL is fixing up the home to make it move in ready. My W plans on moving into the upstairs apartment once the home/apartment is ready. There is no set date but FIL is aware of our sitch is is trying his best to get his daughter out of a "bad situation." FIL GF is having health issues so it has set things back a little for FIL.

We have been married for 5 months but together for 10 years 2 months and 23 days. I will say for the better part of 7 years I was not the ideal boyfriend, fiance or husband. She was obsessed and very codependent of me. I have said and done some very unforgiven things but yet she still stuck by me hoping one day I would change. She thought the day would be the day we got married, soon after she realized I will always be the same person and nothing would ever change so she finally said she had enough.

I rather not repeat what I said to my W to drive her to this point but just know I was in the wrong and I am making every effort to save our marriage.