It's a man's world and it is not fair. Life is not easy for women. …I just meant that men earn more money than women, and it is much easier for them to find someone new and start over, and they usually get better looking with age.
This is unfair. First, what you are doing is giving yourself an excuse to remain a victim. Poor me, I’m a failure because I’m a poor and helpless woman. That insults all woman!
And you are insulting the men too. You are saying that because of your gender, your suffering is worse and deserves more sympathy than male LBSs. That invalidates their experience. And how would you know anyway. You are living your circumstances and they are living theirs.
Go ahead and stay at the pity party. But it won’t get better until you take responsibility to pick yourself up off of the floor, stop blaming your spouse for the pain you are feeling—you choose your feelings—and leave the party.
