ANYHOW--in the "advice column" at least 3 times in 2 issues, the advisor wrote "many men emotionally disengage from the R months before actually making the break."
Now, duh, this is totally WAS. But I always found it so painful to read about that--to see and understand and know that X must have been sooo unhappy for so long--and perhaps all the last year--who knows? was a big pretense as his heart slowly withdrew from me--and I never knew.
Very true, as we all (now) know. But in the beginning - and even sometimes now - my reaction (to myself) to that reality was/is, "Then why didn't you say something?!?!!"
Good luck in - and congratulations on - the half marathon. Are we gonna get a picture of you in that cute running skirt in the .alt?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac