Met with WAH about baby names and him purchasing something practical.
I was detached and strong, and gave all the signals and words to convey that I wasn't pursing, that I am moving on without him.
I told him I do not feel comfortable discussing baby names with him (especially the surname) when he is not transparent with me about his plans of staying the country to help out or not with coparenting, and that it made me feel disrespected and that I felt I couldn't negotiate under those conditions.
So, he then fessed up that he still plans to live with the OW, here or overseas, as soon as it's practicable.
I told myself: don't react. YOU ARE ALREADY DEAD.
He also said, "But I'm still here (in the country) and that means something", and "We can't write or shouldn't try to write the future".
I said he was an adult and could do what he wanted, that I though it was a very sad decision for everyone especially his child, and that if he was going down that path then I would be making the decisions pretty much alone and that he could get used to being a divorced Dad from now.
He also said he was scared of being a father and alluded to the idea that he didn't have the "energy" to do the "right" thing.
