That's what I was thinking but not sure what that means.
What are one or two things you would do had the voice-recorder yielded definitive results?
Whatever those would be, I would suggest that you DO THEM ANYWAY, because -- c'mon -- you KNOW what's going on here!
As I've tried to advise you upthread, I think your course of action should be to proceed AS IF SHE IS DEFINITELY HAVING A FULL-BLOWN AFFAIR. A reasonable person can draw no other conclusion from the evidence and behavior that you already have.
I have drawn that conclusion - the secrecy getting worse is even more of a sign. Her computer is now hidden in our house somewhere, I haven't even seen her cell phone in a week and she's completely abandoned her facebook/yahoo accounts.
My challenge is I don't know what one or two things to do. If I didn't have my D and this happened I would likely pack up my stuff and leave. I just can't bring myself to do that. I provide the majority of care for my D and couldn't bare leaving her.
At this point I also trust my W so little that I'd be worried about what she may say to my D. There have been a few occasions where I've had to ask her to stop talking while D was around and wait for the right time.
This is not the person I married - I found receipts for Botox (315.00 a shot). I don't know where the money came from because it didn't come from our joint account. So another secret.
I can go mostly dark - and just talk about D. I was doing that before the exposure conversation but that would be for me...to avoid speaking with her.
Anyway as I said I'm open to suggestions. I am being selective on consequences as well I think because OM is a cop.
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
I just received a letter from a lawyer asking me to fill out a financial statement and not to take any 'radical steps which may prejudice my rights' with respect to the matrimonial home.
I need help guys - my W will call tonight to talk with D. Do I mention it, ignore it, fill it out?
Anyone with any thoughts please - I'm not worried about the legal angle. I have an attorney if it goes that way and our jurisdiction is pretty much a 50/50 location which favours shared custody.
I just not how to respond. Of course my gut first said call my lawyer but I want to think this one through.
BF contacting me now makes sense they were worried I'd seen this letter.
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
Have an appointment Tuesday - I don't suppose there is any point in letting family/friend know I think they've already chosen their sides.
I'm crushed by this.....
I did email the lawyer (probably dumb) but it felt like calling a bluff.
Hello Ms. Lawyer I'm in receipt of a letter written by you on behalf of my spouse Ms. W I must say I'm very shocked to have received this letter as it makes reference to negotiating in an amicable way a Separation Agreement. My spouse and I are not separated and live in the same home. Despite difficulties arising from her infidelity she still remains in the marriage. Can you clarify, is Ms. W not returning from her trip to Las Vegas? Thanks in advance
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
I figured, I don't know what I was thinking. I just want W to leave now. I'm not leaving my D. The letter asks me to book an appointment to discuss a temporary parenting plan.
I don't get it. We are both in the home with D, why would I need a parenting plan unless W is moving out....I guess that was my motivation. Anyway, one mistake...I'll keep learning.
Puppy - any thoughts on letting anyone else in on this or just keep it to myself?
I'm not sure I even want this person in my life - she's made false claims about me as a person, continues to keep secrets from me, spends no time caring for her child....this is not the kind of person I want to be with.
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation
