Yeah I don't really care his reasons either. If someone matters to you then it doesn't matter how busy you are--a little pearl of wisdom from "He's Just Not That Into You".
And as you all already noticed from basically week one, I was not that into him either. I think I was into the fact that he is/was "safe"...meaning I have known him from HS. Honestly in High School he would have been the equivalent of 'gay male friend' without the gay part...I never thought of him as a sexual being, he was just that guy in our speech team who was funny... The fact that he seemed so interested in me a few weeks ago was a PMA booster so I went with it.
I just had a brief text exchange with Dan. I wasn't even thinking about it when I asked my mom/dad to keep the kids overnight while I go to my birthday party/date event... However it is in the decree that we give each other ROFR for overnights.
So, he texts me at all of 1 a.m.-- "So I am wondering why you asked your parents to keep the kids instead of me"
Truth be told he has a right to wonder. But I was just honest, "Sorry, you are right I probably should have. I just know that you tend to do cattle or house projects when you don't have the kids. And honestly the past year you haven't been able to keep them overnight so I got used to asking my parents. I can either change tomorrow's plan or just ask you first in the future, which do you prefer?"
Cause hey it is stipulated, so I get it. He replies, "In the future" so, there it is.
I didn't say anything bc I do not want to be petty nor vindictive, but what about all the times he has shown up here unannounced (or even sometimes announced but without asking, just telling) when it is not 'his day' just to say hi to the kids, or to play with Nathan, or whatever.
What about the fact that this year is 'my' year to have Sydney on her birthday next Saturday (5/1), but it falls on 'his' weekend with the kids. So he already planned a family party on Saturday and said I could spend time with her Friday or Sunday?
Yeah there are a hell of a lot of things I 'wonder about' too, Dan.........
In better news we are expecting our first severe weather outbreak Friday afternoon evening. The plus is strong winds, lightning and hail. (Yeah I'm weird)
The minus is I will look like a drowned rat by party time bc I will be in and out for the carnival preparations first!
And and in my interactions w/Dan this late late evening I could see just how not into anything he is which should make it all much easier....should....I really want to have it out with him but I will not because it is so not worth it and will only set back all the kick ass progress I have made.
Oh, come on Mish...this is IOWA! "Tornado" is one of our seasons! Gotta love it when you start the car this morning and hear the words, "Looking like some twisters in the region today"...
The bummer is strong possibility of hail, but on the upside I haven't gotten a new car yet so at least my old Honda will take the hit!
PMA is better today. I got 3 hours of sleep, woke up for 90 minutes, then got almost 4 hours of sleep after that, so not bad!
Been reading a book today on the computer, I downloaded it from B & N... called "When I Do Becomes I Don't". I highlighted a bunch of key stuff this morning that has been helpful for me. I am spending the day testing my ESL kids so I sit at my laptop while they do the tests, giving me lots of 'down time' which I have spent reading.
I really think if it were just me I would probably have progressed even further. I can see from my own POV why we just cannot be together. However Nathan is pulling at the heartstrings a little this week.
Last night he told me one of his best buddies' parents are divorcing. He said "Carter's dad moved out a while ago. Now he goes to two houses two. But his mom and dad are getting a divorce not like you and dad." Then a bit later he said, "My friend Nevin told me that you and dad being apart means you are divorced but I told him no, it just means you are apart."
He still hasn't outright asked me if we are divorced, the counselor and I reviewed how to handle things this week and she thinks unless/until the kids ask I should wait to tell them. And she actually suggested saying that Daddy decided he didn't want to be married anymore. Not trashing Dan or sharing the infidelity, but stating the truth, that the divorce was his decision/choice...
OK back to work on those tests! By the end of the day I should only have one kiddo left...
EDIT: Now I reread it, and it isn't what you said! Whop me with a wet noodle!
It seems Nathan is coming about as close to asking as a 7 year old will. I think it may be time to tell him. I know, it's going to break his heart. But, it's got to be done.
I like the idea of telling him Daddy didn't want to be married anymore works pretty well. True, but no real trashing. Someday, I think the kids will figure it all out. But they don't need it now.
HUGS!
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