This is where I'm really stuck. He said a few days ago, "It doesn't seem like you've realized what's really going on. You've been acting like everything is going to be okay. We're getting a divorce, [Number 8]!"
Wow. That must be a sting that left a mark. Got any Polysporin?
I heard one person say their spouse said something like that because the leaving person expected the left one to respond with anger, beg, plead. I really get this because I was waiting for my W to do it back in Oct. I was praying she would show me that she really did love me and wanted me. She didn't. Cold and calculating, I just got the emotional responses.
Now, things have changed a lot. Not because she did come begging, but because I 'begged'. I went and calmly told her I really wanted to work things out, gave evidence, and that I was looking toward further self improvements, too. I had done a few 180s by then and had begun improving me, so I referred to those as evidence.
It is possible he just doesn't want to let you in. But, then again, you don't know unless you fight.
Again, my W has asked for a separation/divorce 12 times since that first begging to which she had succumed. All times (but this one) I went begging in one creative way or another. I'm geting tired of trying, but I'm still looking for ways ... just not all the same ways.
