Of course not. What kills me on this site is how some people think there is a one method cures all. It's a combination of things based on your own sitch. That's why DB stresses that you should do what works. If you try something and it's not getting a good response, then do something else.
This is one of the reasons I would bet your wife doesn't open up to you anymore. You seem to want to tell people how they feel and what they think. You call people "closed minded" and yet it is YOU that has only tried to save your marriage YOUR way. You haven't done what I would have recommended. I have allowed you and observed your situation for two years. So it is YOU that is closed minded.
You try and tell me (and I bet you have done this with your wife) that some people think there is one method cures all. This is again trying to tell people what they think. I don't know anybody on this board that thinks that "one method cures all.". So you again are trying to tell people what they think and what they feel.
You told me what I knew about depression and abuse. Again telling me what I know. These are things your wife has also learned about you over the years. THESE are reasons your wife is closed off to you. It is obvious she doesn't reveal her deepest darkest secrets and her hurts and fears. After your response to me earlier it all becomes clear. It is YOU who don't like disagreement and gets defensive. All because I tell you what you are doing isn't working and hasn't worked. Do you need a fan club or cheeleaders?
And you want ME to tell you my personal life? To help me or to attack if I tell you again in six months that what you are doing doesn't seem to be working?
Now you are acting like a brat and want to know how my SIL was doing. You want to know my own situation.. Yep. Just as you pushed your wife away and she doesn't open up, I now understand.. You need to find something so that you can unleash that deep anger you have. You were more than likely hoping my SIL would still be trying to DB.
I am going to the bottom line again here. What you have been doing hasn't worked. So your one size fits all isn't working. Your closed mind won't allow you to do the "Gucci" method. And yet you are preaching to others about the one size fits all. You haved the closed mind in this. It is closed to the "Gucci method" I can certaoinly understand why your wife says nothing and is closed off in her feelings. She probably learned a long time ago that you are capable of unleashing an bombardment of anger and hurtful things.
Maybe you should be using your ownd advice on "open mind" and be willing to cut the anger because I point out that what you have done hasn't worked. If you are so "open minded to do what works, then maybe the "Gucci" method "(whateve that means) is just what you need. Or is your mind closed?
