Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

James, please, please, please listen!!!!!

She is baiting you brother..

You have her in a good place right now (meaning she is showing interest) BUT you are making one mistake after another. You know you should be focusing on YOU, yet you're running all over the second she asks you to.

You can't continue to do that.

You give her your cell phone battery, only to go and go searching for another one to call her back? how does that make sense...

Like she said, she KNOWS you'll ALWAYS be there. That's probably the only truth that has left her mouth.

And don't even think of entertaining the idea of her working with you. That's not going to work.

Forget the phone calls/emails/texts. You need time for YOU. You just had a major health issue because of your STRESS and look at what you are doing? you are bringing this onto yourself.

stop allowing her to pu$$ywhip you and just take it! find your nuts and use them! Stand up for yourself. This is BS!

DBing is about self preservation, self respect, taking care of yourself. It's not about avoiding arguments. You are giving into her every request and every whim.

Now stop it!

I don’t want her working with me. It would be chaotic. Last night and today showed me a lot too. She wants to keep tabs on me. Doesn’t want any women near me (even though she jokes about them) Wants to be able to access my phone my password protected computer login. Etc etc but even though she’s been more open I haven’t seen any suspicious activity or anything she still is kind of secretive.

She is enjoying the thrill of this too. The chase. It’s given her an excitement she hasn’t felt in months with me and she likes it. She is loving the attention the compliments the wining and dining. She has stated that I have spoiled her and I always used to spoil her before I got sick. I think she thinks that will change if she comes back home once we work some things out but I’m working hard not to.

I’m really trying to forget about the calls/texts/emails T.H.A. Really hard though. The time is really special to me especially our intimacy but I gotta stop it.

I’m never going to get out of this rut with her. I snooped on the call history just to see. What was going on. Pretty much calls to her sister and her female friends. One call stood out like a sore thumb though. 20 minute conversation with E.A. O.M. They really do not talk a lot. Short conversations. Even over the past week or so. Nothing longer than 10 mins. I am the most frequent person she calls and texts. No one else even comes close.

LOL T.H.A. I cannot believe you said the “P” word (just kidding) yea I know but to be getting it on a consistent basis after 2 months of nothing really threw me off too.

The sad thing is she spent more time on the phone talking to her family friends me and E.A. OM than calling back on the job leads she asked me about earlier. She’ll call those numbers back to back. (cept E.A O.M.) But you call a job once and get voicemail and not a live person? SMH She’s never going to get a job that way. Oh well time for her to put on her BGPs and grow up some.

She just texted me about the jobs. Stating she didn’t get a call back. Well that’s her damn fault. Obviously she didn’t learn from the other job. They were having interviews tomorrow too and she has totally ruined that. I’m not going to keep bailing her out either. I love her and care about her dearly but this isn’t fair. I think she’s going to try to come and work with me. She really wants to do that. Oh god no. I did not respond to the text message though.

I finally actually did the task of looking through the text messages. Still texts to unrecognized numbers. Mainly texts to me and both of her sisters. though. A few to E.A. O.M. some last Friday to P.A. O.M and a few other days last week. Her calls are not that frequent. They are dwindling just as I suspected. So are the text messages.

Im just relaxing and listening to music and walking. I wish it didn’t have to be this way. Why can’t love just be appreciated valued and shown all the time. I know I’m not perfect but I really care about people. Since I don’t have my family anymore I’ll just have to fight for me. I’m in the ring back against the wall facing

Can someone link me to the stages of infidelity? I’m not mad not gonna mention it. Not gonna text or call her. Still dark. The text messages take awhile for me to download and sort through and to see if she’s still lying. I don’t see a lot of funny stuff going on. I can’t tell who sent/received the text message I can only tell when and where they came from. I do know she tried to call P.A. O.M last week and got no answer.

She’s pretty much only texting her E.A. O.M. and calling him with just a little frequency. *shrugs* nothing I can do about it.