8 weeks until D Day!!

[lea74]

Hi Gardener,

Thank you - you are quite right. In a way he has helped me as I now feel more detached then ever. This I guess, was the last straw.

As for worse behaviour, well I have experienced some of that with him before. (nothing too violent, just a slap here or there). However, this incident has made me feel so humiliated!!!

I guess on reflection, I never should have tolerated his 'slapping' before, but always forgave him - I thought that is what a good wife did.

He texted me yesterday am to chat and I told him I didnt want to . He then texted back and asked why I wouldnt talk to him - he really does understand consequences to behavour.

[LSG]

lea74,

I would expect that you would be detached from more than ever from him. Please never tolerate anyone treating you the way he has. You deserve much better than that.

He is clueless, isn't he.

[lea74]

Thank you LSG, this has been a real wake-up call for me. He tried to contact me several times yesterday however I never answered the calls. Before I would have and as ususal would have forgiven him, however this time I can honestly say I just feel nothing. I actaully managed a couple of hours yesterday without even thinking about the big D - which is great for me as normally it is on my mind constantly. It was really nice to have a break from it.

Take care.

[goldfiber]

Hi Lea, so sorry that the ugliness your H showed. That I am sure was painful and ugly. Please detach from him completely. Do not answer him as to why you are not communicating with him. He knows why, is trying to find the easy way to approach the subject. As I have said to you before, he is not as happy as he wants you to think. The spitting proved it. He realizes he us losing you or control over you. Stay strong, he's given you the motivation to stay away, take it. I'm glad u came back to site. Did u get my message in fb?

[lea74]

Hi G, glad to hear from you. I can now say I have totally detached. I havent answered his calls, or responsed to anything. I am really not interested at the moment.

No I didnt get your message on FB. Can you send it again - would love to receive it.

[goldfiber]

Stick with it, it will make your life so much better for now. This gets you out of his drama.

I guess that wasn't you I sent friend request to. I found about 10 people that matched the clues you gave me.

[lea74]

Thanks, I can really do without the drama. I actually feel a little at peace at the moment - it that weird.

So wonder who got your friend request??

Name Shelley S....s van K..ten

see if you can find me. I am a member of DB.

[timehealsall]

lea, I am so sorry.. you should never have to endure any of that crap! hugs to you girl! we are here for you! detach, detach, detach!

[goldfiber]

Just sent you a friend request.

[lea74]

Hi G, sorry still havent got it.