I still love him, the old him, I don't like who he is right now...I am not going to think on it too much...luckily, I LOVE popcorn and a good drama!
Very insightful-does it also help with dealing with the D because it is divorcing the current H and not the old one? Just wondering.
WOW about OW's family and church!!!! It's like they made her wear a scarlet A!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
NM...I hadn't really thought of that but yes, it is helping with dealing with the D. And, I also think about what HB has said that even if H does come out of his MLC, he will not be the same person he was before MLC (I am hoping for BETTER...lol!) and that I might not like that person either and he may not care for the changes that I have made!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Going dark did not really work in my sitch either, although with two toddlers grey is about as much as I can go anyway. You come across as a very a strong person with great self awareness. I don;t have much to add that others hav;nt said, but I think you are doing well!
Hi SR! It has taken me quite awhile to get to this place that I am at now. Just read the first page on your thread and looks like you caught on a lot faster than I did! Thankyou for stopping by!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
Yes, I think it really is important to look at our spouse and realize that they are not the same person that we married. It's painful to let go of the spouse with whom we formed those beautiful memories and connections, but that's in the past now. The present is seeing what is now. The future is unknown...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
boy, that's a powerful piece of wisdom, FM. And sad...
CW- I remember how much you posted on my thread that I no longer can post on b/c H found and read it- and wanted to just say thank you so much and that I'm trying to catch up on your sitch- I might as well do some posting to others if I can't say anything about myself!- but have to be a little careful of what I write if he's still around here- don't want it to be interpreted as being related too much to my own sitch.
take care-
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
Yes... but hard when you remember the good stuff, too. They're both part of the same person. I guess it's just what comes out for real when the stakes are high/chips are down, etc. You see what someone is truly made of and whether they're who you thought they were or not. I like Michelle's analogy of them being possessed by aliens. Some days that seems to fit for some of us.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
