My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[TrentC]

I am contemplating asking him to show me his phone records. Pretty sure he won't because he is guilty.

I'm pretty sure he won't, regardless of his guilt, because he'll come back with "Why don't you trust me?" and make it all about YOU.

You keep trying to confront and lecture and pry and snoop, and it's really not going to get you anywhere. Believe me, if I thought doing that would make headway in your situation, I would be encouraging you to do it.

And this is all still taking the focus away from you. Every minute you spend chasing a fruitless conversation with him is a minute you could have been reading or doing something for yourself.