My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[TimeHeals]

It's not about you. Try to remember that. What ever has happened in the past, you wouldn't be here if you weren't making your marriage a priority, I expect.

I have read some of your posts, and your H sounds a lot like my W (hope I am not reading too much into that), but chances are if you go out of your way to try to make him happy, it's going to feel like you are trying to control him in the place he is in right now.

So... just be happy on your own, and if he chooses to reach out, then be receptive, but you cannot make him happy. R-talk is depressing stuff. Try just to listen to that stuff or go get busy doing something else if you can't resist the temptation to present your point of view (I am a hypocrite on this. I am terrible at not trying to correct errant assertions or ask questions). Small talk, world events, and such are fine if he wants to discuss those, and you aren't arguing about them.

His unhappiness isn't about you, so don't reinforce it by being baited into unpleasantness.

Now, if I can only heed my own advice....