W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Thank you all for the input.

Today:

I went to bed last night contemplating if I should try to lay in the same bed as my W....after much thought I did. I went to bed and she did not budge. We both slept in the same bed. My W woke up, went and had breakfast, showered and she came back to bed. I was surprised but glad she felt comfortable enough to come lay beside me again.

I went to my personal training session and when i returned home my W was in a bad mood. After a lot of silent treatment...I could feel the tension but was not sure what set her off. I asked her if she had any plans to do anything for the day and if not would she like to do something. She immediately said "NO."

She then asked if I changed the password for the login for the phone bill. I told her "Yes." She was very upset. I decided to tell her the truth that for a period of time I was in contact with OM and OMW and did not let her know. I thought it was for the best. I nor OM and OMW wanted my W to have OM new phone number which she could retrieve from the logs. My W wanted to hear none of it.

My W put her coat on and I asked "you heading out?" she said "Yes" and I asked "where" she did not reply and then she left.

I said nothing and let her leave. I did not call or text her after she left. I left myself, ran tot he store. When I returned home, she returned shortly after. She had went to the pet store.

I remained silent and said nothing. She walked up to me and asked me to be honest with her...she asked about the calls and why I changed the password. I told her I did remain in contact but last time I spoke to them was well over 3-4 weeks ago. I told her I changed the pass and that was my decision.

After, things seemed to have calmed down. We started to talk again and have a few conversations. I am still keeping my distance and going to let her initiate all contact.

SO I had a backslide. Not sure how much damage it caused. I know somewhere in there when she asked me a question, I started to respond and then she would say "Doesn't matter, I don't really care" so I said "I know you don't care" and she replied "whatever, you don't know"