still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[newmama]

Just saw my therapist- he was familiar w/ Michelle Weiner Davis and said although she is not heavily research based, many of her suggested approaches are based on research. He big into using research based methods- always cites the study or method he is recommending.

Main points- 1) he "approves" of what I am doing by waiting out-being pro-marriage (based on my individual sitch.)I asked him what he thought-he did not volunteer( he is a good therapist like that) I just said I would like to know your opinion. Am I being a fool for not filing? He said "if you don't want the divorce, then why file?" and he asked me about limits being in place. I explained how WH is over here most of the time but that I avoid him a lot. He said that is good for him to be here to see my changes and to wonder what I am doing-as long as it is not too painful for me to be around him. He said some other stuff too.

2)It is good that I am "preparing" for divorce but to also "prepare" for reconciliation (!)

We did not delve deeply into these things yet because there was paperwork and an overview of goals, etc. I will not be sharing every detail on here of course!


gotta go!