W-I take that as a yes M-Take it however u want. The answer is no. Why? W-If your going to move on with your life and start dating, I need to do the same. M-Do we need to talk some more? W-I thought we said what we needed to say. I'm just telling u that if u ar'nt gonna date anyone while we're going through this, than I wont. But if you are then I will too.
WOW!!!! WTF!!!!
Is this some kind of a control thing for her?
I'm at a loss.
Yes it is a control thing, you haven't noticed this by now? C'mon, how long have you been at this with your wife? She has another man on the side and still strings you along and you still hang in there even after she literally hands you D papers?
Bro, when do you start moving on with your life?
She asks if you have started dating, you say "YES I have not that it's any business of yours, we're getting divorced, the paperwork is in process, I'm moving on, you ended the marriage remember so I agreed with you, we're over and now it's on to bigger & better things for me."
When she says "if you're going to move on with your life and start dating, I need to do the same", you say:
"You already did that, remember? The OM, the affair, didn't you think that made a difference, you moved on, now it's time to move on"
You DON'T ask her "Do we need to talk some more?", this communicates that you're still waiting for her to break and submit under the pressure but she doesn't have to, you're the one crumbling under pressure and she knows this because you communicate this to her when you ask these questions.
Why does she want someone she can control so much? Ask yourself that question. Do you think it's attractive to be controlled, do you think it attracts her to you when she controls you, I'm sure she has fun with it but the two are different things, you're like a toy she plays with when she gets bored and has nothing better to do (literally).
Think about this. Is this the kind of person you want in your life? You need to act as if there is only 1 of you and a 1000 of her and that life is providing you with alot of great new things now that you're allowing this to happen in your life.
