H's justification for leaving and for hooking up with OW, has been mainly me not loving him, needing him or appreciating him enough.
I admit that we have been drifting apart for the last few years due to the usual R breakers (stress, work problems, teenagers, empty nest etc...) but for me the big one has always been his non-communicative nature and his conflict avoidance. R issues were brewing long term and not dealt with when they should have. Which reminds me...H fits the NG description perfectly.
Now I see that H has been carrying inside him a perception of me rejecting him as he has been accusing me for being too focused on our children. I eventually realized (too late) that H had become antagonistic especially with our son and he has been jealous of all the attention son had been getting from me lol. How about that? I could have never guessed such a thing in a million years.
So, under the circumstances wouldn't it be a 180 for me to show interest and love instead of going completely dark? If he has felt rejected shouldn't I make him feel otherwise?
Your opinion is always appreciated.
Bomb: 4/2009 M28 T32 Sep8 Me: 53, H:57 S20,D17 D papers filed by H: 2013 H didn't follow up with divorce I completely let go ever since
