what to believe?

[Greek]

Wayward - he is leaving your marriage.
Greek

[Katie]

thank you for your help..that doesn't make me feel good but the truth hurts. How can you guys tell that from reading my post I am not saying you are wrong just curious. So what do I do now.

[Katie]

So could you tell me from my post and what I have said that he is interested in someone else? Is that how it usually goes down?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

He's cheated on you before, Katie, and it's never really been addressed in any thorough way (boundaries, counseling, transparency), so that alone usually has a VERY high rate of recidivism. Throw in the things you've said in your initial posts, and then about this co-worker, and the way your husband is behaving, and yeah, it's kinda obvious.

At least to me.

Puppy

[Katie]

So in what way do they behave that makes it obvious that they are cheating?

[Greek]

Katie,
You could always gather intel for yourself to check it out. Do you have access to his phone records? Email? Poke around a little and see what you find. If there's nothing there, no harm done. But if there is SOMETHING, you will know. And I'd want to know.

Greek

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yep. If nothing else, you'll have gained a TON of peace-of-mind, right?

Puppy

[Katie]

No I don't have access to his phone because it is through his work. I don't have access to his email either. So I think I am just going to have to deal with the not knowing because guys can lie so well.

[gman]

so can women....lets just agree to say "cheaters lie".

[Puppy Dog Tails]

When he's around you, does he always keep his phone with him? Does he lock it?