reconciliation after divorce?

[dday101798]

If anything, she should be happy that she's evened the score, so what the hell is she crying about?

The fact that now she knows the wrong and pain he's carried all these years for what he did?

[Kimmie Lee]

AND SHE"S DOING THE SAME THING!!!!

The score is even, so she doesn't get to keep punishing him.

[timehealsall]

AND SHE"S DOING THE SAME THING!!!!

The score is even, so she doesn't get to keep punishing him.

Amen!

[dday101798]

Oh, agreed, completely agreed.

[any chance?]

I am such a &^%$&*()) idiot. Of course it is all a game. She asks for a divorce, then goes into a depressive tailspin...going to lose everything, etc.

Just uncovered evidence of continued EA if not PA with the OM. It has all been lies. All of it.

Now what do I do?

[any chance?]

This is classic. The tailspin has her as the victim, she is losing everything. And she has been having an ongoing EA/PA with a coworker. Do I confront her, or just stash the information for later?

[DaddyLongShanks]

Don't confront her about the affair with the coworker. you present that information to her boss and HR. Then she finds out.

[any chance?]

Too late. This information was already public when the EA/PA was first uncovered 5 months ago

[DaddyLongShanks]

What is their workplace ethics on affairs?

[dday101798]

I know I'm going to bashed for this and I don't give a hoot, afterall, I did get my W back, so I must know something in what I'm talking about.......

Broadcasting the A to everyone and their mother's uncle is about the most infintile and destructive thing you can do to not just your W but you!

One of the biggest things that my (x)W is so appreciative for, despite all the nasty things she did, was other than here, where I vented, I protected her, I stuck up for her, and never once did I openly expose the A, she did that enough on her own.

Anyway, hey any chance, now you have proof right? You sound pretty gash darn pissed right? What the bloody hell do you think your W has been enduring for all these years????

So now what do you do?

You ask yourself, do you love this woman? Not who she is now, but who she was, and who she was all along at your side knowing you betrayed HER, but she stayed there faithful until now.

Then ask yourself if you can ever forgive her for this, and accept, you've done wrong and now she's done wrong. The slate is clean, can you get over it?

Finally ask yourself, how long you can ride this out IF you do in fact love the woman you betrayed who is now betraying you (and no, it doesn't make it right, nor is it "fair" in all essence, but, it is what it is).