DLS, Go ahead and use what ever you want. I can't take credit for all of it. Robx did most of the work. I improvised a little.
Cool, calm, confident, be a man. That's how I handled it. Toughest thing I've ever had to do.
You might think after the talk she would never want to communicate with me. As I type this W is texting me about the cosmo she's reading. Like I care. She asked what I had planed for tonight. It goes on and on. Robx might be right about her pursuing me.(see older post) Have to wait and see.
W-I take that as a yes M-Take it however u want. The answer is no. Why? W-If your going to move on with your life and start dating, I need to do the same. M-Do we need to talk some more? W-I thought we said what we needed to say. I'm just telling u that if u ar'nt gonna date anyone while we're going through this, than I wont. But if you are then I will too.
Your right timehealsall, that's what I was thinking too.
DLS, it's hard to make the brain switch over to "it doesn't matter".
she sent another... wants to have sex a least one more time.
I never thought getting divorced would get me so much action. That's not funny. This is a serious situation involving real people, but it's no fun being serious all the time.
Your right timehealsall, that's what I was thinking too.
BLS, it's hard to make the brain switch over to "it doesn't matter".
she sent another... wants to have sex a least one more time.
I never thought getting divorced would get me so much action. That's not funny. This is a serious situation involving real people, but it's no fun being serious all the time.
Quote:
"I have been doing some thinking and this isn't working for me anymore. I deserve better. I think it is best we go ahead and go through with the divorce. I am not going to live like this anymore.
"No. I have already decided what is best for me." Then you walk away.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Coach knows if what he speaks. You won't go wrong following his advice.
You're right, none of this is fun or funny. How can the person that we fell in love with act this way? It makes no sense at all which is why doing what it takes to fix it doesn't always make sense either.
My W and I had a similar "talk" last Mon. when she got home after 1:30am. I said she needed to leave. She spewed about this M being over for a long time, it was all my fault, etc. She's still here. We had a few good days and last night and this morning sucked. I just acted "as if" and helped and played with the kids. When I left this morning, I didn't tell her good-bye. She hadn't looked at me all morning, why go out of my way? I don't know if that was the right way to handle it or not.
Anyway, the point is, WTF is right! You can't understand WAS. Stop trying. Keep doing what works.
