Time for darkness.... (thread number 3)ears open

[james217]

I agree with CG.

I think your mom is worried about you and rather than be more compassionate about it, she's venting and is angry. My mother would probably be the same way with me.

I think you need to sit them down and hear them out and let them hear you out.

As for WAW, you are providing her with the physical aspect of a R that she needs. OM is providing her with the emotional aspect. You shouldn't have to settle. That's not right. I feel like you're getting too comfortable with her.

hang in there.

My mom has always taken care of all her brothers and sisters and their children and my grandmother. Then comes my dad me and my sister. By the time she gets to us she's tired frustrated and doesn't see how sad that makes us. Because when I told her about the surgery she told me she was going out of town to one of my 1st cousin's children's graduation from kindergarten. Now I don't know abbout you but I know if my son was facing surgeries and was just recently in the hospital I wouldn't be going out of town for trips for kindergarten graduations. So she wants my father to take off of work to do the surgery if she's not here. They ask her to do things that they would not do for her at all. When she was in the hospital they weren't even there even though they were at the house. It's very frustrating.

I can never get both of my parents to sit down at the same time. It doesn't work. Their M works for them but I don't even understand it lol.

Waw I don't know about. She confides in me. When I was at her place there were no landline calls. She wasn't consistently looking at her phone and chatting or texting. She didn't go in the bathroom to do any suspicious behaviour.

SHe did say she needs more space and time to work on things she's working on. But she turns to me alot more. For advice, help, confiding, talking about things. We have really really talked alot and she's been very open and relaxed. That's how I can bust the E.A. totally. I think it's realy dwindling and it's because me and her can have talks. She turns to her family more as well

But just like you two wise women say i'm getting comfortable and I think she is too.

She is getting the relationship aspects without any type of committment so why would it change?

She gets jealous whenever women talk to me or anyone calls me. Heck I had a few friends call and check on me and she immediately wanted to know who it was on yesterday. If I get a text and reply or i'm even on here the green monster shows up.

When I'm not answering her calls she's texting or emailing me. But then when I start pursueing or overpursueing maybe? she runs

I have improved on this alot but I need to get better. I am going to go smoke and then post today's update.

Thank you both for the replies. I reallya ppreciate that.