I am definitely not going near her therapist again. She is evil. My wife said she would see whomever I wished. It's as though she is saying, bring on any therapist you want...nothing is going to change my mind. I had a great session with a DB coach today and she believe that couples therapy is probably something we shouldn't be in right now. She gave me some great advice, which I plan to carry out. I am banging on the marriage door and she's got it bolted shut. I need to use another door -- such as the Friendship door -- to tr to connect with her. The more I demand she works on the M, the deeper she digs her heels in, and it's going nowhere. Appeal to our friendship and stop pursuing and remove the pressure of working on the M as a way to making some kind of connection. Then, if she responds, I use the tactic of pulling back and becoming more mysterious and let her experience the feeling of loss. It's something she has no concept of at the moment.
