He then tells me that I was told to leave her alone, and didn't. I text her because i wanted her to block my number because I couldn't do it that was all.
That doesn't make sense. Why do you need her to block your number? Why can't you block her number?
You need to take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
So he tells me we are seperating but we will have to live in the same house until we go through the divorce process because we have to sell our house and that will have to wait because we have to first put on a roof to our house before we can market it. So he says we can set up a schedule where he has days and I have days with the kids. What is the best option for me if I want this divorce to not happen? Nobody has filed, nobody has even gone to a lawyer yet. We will probably be living together for at least another 3 or 4 months at the very least.
Also what should I do about the living arragements? I believe it would be better if he moved out for awhile and maybe he would realize what he had, like the saying you never know what you have until it is gone and maybe he wouldn't but you never know. Would it be best to just agree to a schedule with our kids and do not see eachother except a small amount of time before we go to bed, and he sleeps on the couch and I sleep in our bed and it has been this way for months now. I NEED HELP!
Sorry you are here. It really sounds like he's doing whatever he can think of to get a reaction out of you. I've done the same thing when I was younger and retarded. My suggestion would be to not react regardless of what he says. Focus on his behavior, not his words.
Today he didn't get out of bed until 12 p.m. He said he was exhausted and really depressed. When I came home about 3 or so hours later he was up and in a super good mood and acting like he was totally fine and happy about everything. We are suppose to live together for awhile until we can list our house and get everything else settled but I don't think I will be able to make it with his mood swings.
I have no idea what to do? How are you suppose to act when your H says he is ready for a divorce and you have to live together for at least the next 4 months? He has been telling me the last couple of days that he is going to really miss me and that I am so beautiful and he knows that someone will make me happier then he has. He has cheated on me before however it has been over 3 yrs so I guess he could be doing it right now, when I asked him he said he would have no reason not to tell me if he was since we have agreed on divorcing...I have no idea what to believe. Seems like when I act like I don't care about divorcing he acts interested in me and wants to hang around me and talk to me.
GET LEGAL ADVICE. We are not family law attorneys, Katie. You've been told by several posters to educate yourself on family law in your state, and yet you're still panicking and ill-informed.
Your husband is acting the way he is because he is WAYWARD. Unfortunately, YOU need to be the calm, cool and collected one now if you want to try to save your marriage. And even if you DON'T, you'll STILL need to be, so that you can defend your interests.
I guess I don't understand what wayward means? And I have gotten legal advice just this Monday and am going in today for another consulation as well. I am moving forward with getting info and he isn't which is fine with me. Sorry to ask because I have no idea about some of these things but what does defending my interests imply? Thanks for your help!
