I'm sorry I didn't have the time to read every bit of your sitch- it's very long, so I skimmed. From your other thread where you asked me to hop over here:
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As for the question regarding where my dedication lies? You'll see via the thread in Newcomers that I'm switching where that dedication lies. I do not want any of what's going on in my life but as of today, I've accepted that this is happening and that all I can control is me. I'm dedicated to me and my kids. That's where my dedication lies now. If he should want to mend things in the future, he will definitely have lots of proving to do and will only being allowed to R with me after proving himself and meeting my stipulations. I'm done with being used as a doormat and treated like a dog. I deserve better and won't waste my time worrying over someone who no longer worries over me.
WOW! Bravo for you! There are a bunch of us out here applauding you for this attitude. It seems really scary right now to a lot of us- esp being alone when we've been with someone for so long. We need to keep reminding ourselves- as you obviously already are- that it's better for our kids to see us happy and alone (and for us too) than to put up with sh!t from H.
hang in there-
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
